Yes, even after two years a part of me still yearns for BT (before twins). Our house was more peaceful. We had less fighting. The stress was manageable. We only had one in diapers. Our grocery budget was less. I still shopped with the kids. We had very few doctor visits. We were invited more places by more people. My kids screamed less. They had fewer meltdowns.
EASIER DOES NOT MEAN BETTER.
I need to remind myself and my children of this frequently. As humans and I think Americans, we choose or are more inclined to follow the path of least resistance.
We think more about our comfort than we do about what is right. Most of our decisions are based on what feels good. What will cause the least amount of stress. Keeping "balance" in our lives.
We look for fairness
instead of justice.
My kids...ALL of them have been driving me nuts lately. I mean pushing me to my edge. I think my parenting style has changed since the twins came home. I used to not be so worried about my kids temporary happiness and comfort. Example...I am not or will I ever be a short order cook. What I make for dinner is what my kids eat. Bottom line or they don't eat. I do not cater to their desires. I think though after the twins came...I became so hyper-sensitive to the kids happiness and adjustment..that I have started and maintained bad habits that are biting me in my butt now. It has gotten so out of control..that I often cry when I drive. I spend alot of time in the van with the 3 little ones. It is a constant demand, complain, whine and fight fest. One wants this song. One wants the music off. One wants to sing. One wants the other to stop singing. One wants the windows down. One wants the windows up. And it's not only in the car...it is everywhere. Due to my desire for my kids to feel okay about the last few years....I created spoiled children who think their comfort and happiness is more important than anything else.
Yes...life was easier....
and I was a better mom...
It is going to be better.
Starting right now....I am going to mom up.
I am going to make my apron a superwoman cape.
I am going to restore the balance of what is right vs. what is easy.
my children will be denied their whims.
and life will not be fair
It will be better!